Love is....

......not forgetting to buy that someone a special token of your love and affection tomorrow? It's Valentines Day by the way, something that passes me by every year like every other day. 
Yes I'm one of those sad, single lonely people who hate tomorrow and would like to see it wiped off the calendar forever to prevent us having to be sick in a bucket with every loved up persons public display of affection.

or am I?

No....I've not given up yet on finding the love of the rest of my days yet. It's so hard though, dating has been a bit of an adventure over the past few years, and yes we are going back a bit. Don't even talk to me about the online dating either. 

It's been a bit hit and miss. I've probably had more hits than I care to mention but cocked it up on my part but some of the misses have been a blessing to be honest. You always go dating with the intention of staying safe, having the emergency contact ready to get you out of any sticky situation, no....the ones you don't want to be sticky!! I had an emergency contact once and she decided to just turn up to be curious, or is it nosey?.....It did confuse me as to whether I should be leaving with her in some desperate escape to a sick auntie in hospital, but think my date was a nurse so I would have been found out on that one and anyway I was in fact having a nice time....shoo  shoo good friend but no excuses needed this time. 

Staying safe is a good thing, no one wants to date a serial killer but also it's a mission staying away from those:

-seeking a bit of fun on the side,
-the person who wants to add you to a mix,
-the one who is not over the ex and mentions them ALL the time,
-someone with enough baggage you need to carry your passport around permanently in case of a unexpected vacation to 'no where ville'

We all have baggage and that's not a reason to give up, sometimes that's what makes it hard to date in later years, there's a lot which has gone on before you go on this massive mission of finding love again. It's a huge balance of leaving a part of your life behind and in some cases learning to trust again. Even trickier is if you are a single parent too, eventually you haven't just got to consider the two of you but the children too. 
You also have to be ready in yourself, I've definitely dated people and not been in the right place, a lot of things make sense for me now and I'm a lot more positive but to be honest I'm very happy being single. I can do the Bridget Jones scenario and be around couples but the moment someone wants to find me someone or fix me up, that's it....I'm outta there (unless I've given the nod). I'll leave it and wait for the spark, I truly believe it will happen one day, like the song says.....'don't push it, don't force it, let it happen naturally'. Always thought that was about something else but goodness knows what!
It's true what they say, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else and I do.......so to myself and everyone who reads this have a lovely Valentines Day but remember this love thing is for every day, not just tomorrow.
Be naughty and nice and catch you tomorrow for Teapot Tuesday xx

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